by kathilipp | Apr 22, 2015 | Blog, Marriage, The Husband Project |
5 Ways to Tell Your Hubby You Love Him without All the Words by Paula Tobey
Have you ever been in a rut in your marriage where you find it tough to ‘talk’? Maybe you argue or you’re just not connecting as well as usual. Maybe you find yourself not in the same place of love like you were a few years back. Whatever it is, friend, I am here to tell you it is okay. There is always something you can do to help get out of that rut, and it starts by doing one small thing at a time.
Today, I will share with you five ideas of things that you can do to show your hubby you love him without all those words, because let’s face it, he probably doesn’t want to hear them anyway.
Marital connectedness is so important in a family. It helps the kids in many ways to feel secure, not to mention setting a positive example for them as they grow and enter into their own relationships. Parents have a responsibility to model for their kids behaviors and attitudes that help establish positive development. One of the best things we can do for our children is teach them love and respect. There are lots of ways you can teach this without preaching or teaching with words. Your behavior and actions will show them better than any words can how you feel, so go ahead, win him over without words teaching your kids how to show love and respect for your husband!
- Dressed to Impress – Complimenting your Hottie on how good he looks in his dress shirt. This is one thing that I have not been very good at, but it means so much to my husband when I tell him that I like how he looks. Words of Affirmation go a long way for some, but even saying that you like how soft his shirt is, can be just the kind of compliment he needs to hear. After I have said a statement like ‘I like how soft that shirt is, it looks great’ I will undoubtedly receive a text a little while later thanking me. Take it from me, you hubby likes to know you are still attracted to him after all these years.
- Get Your Own Box – Cheeze It’s are one of my husband’s favorite snacks. I cannot eat them because I’m gluten free, so I tend to buy things for the family that we can all eat. However, my husband told me about a year ago that he really loves it when I buy those for him because he knows that I went out of my way to get him something that I would not normally buy. It is not something that I will get often, and as a matter of fact, I save those for things like an Easter Basket gift, but when I do get them, his face lights up like a kid getting candy! For that reason alone, I will make sure he gets his own box!
- Precious Post It Note’s – When I go out of town for a few days, I like to leave my husband (and daughters) little notes to tell them that I love them. When we were getting ready to move a few months back, I was cleaning out my husband’s medicine cabinet in the master bath, and I found a piece of paper taped to the inside of the mirror with all kinds of post it notes I had left him over the years. It made me smile to see that not only had he kept them, but that he wanted to be reminded often how much I love him. Because I smiled, I am pretty sure he does too. I did not quite realize just how much those little precious notes were to him until then.
- Shopping Cart Surprise – Once I was on Amazon, and I noticed that my husband put an item in the Wish List. It was just a book, and it was not expensive, but I went ahead and ordered it for him. To his surprise, the exact book he had been looking at mysteriously showed up! It was cute when he asked if I had ordered it for him, and I just gave a little grin like ‘I don’t know what you are talking about – who me?’ He then gave me a nice big hug and kiss. It was fun. Sometimes it is the little things that add up to make the big things not so big!
- Good To The Last Drop – Every morning my husband is up before me. He does not need as much sleep as I do, and he enjoys his quiet time to read the paper and drink his coffee in the mornings. One work day this last week, he was actually still in bed, and I was awake, so I got up and made him some coffee. I wanted to be sure he had some because I figured he must have been pretty tired to still be in bed. When he came out and I had the coffee out for him, he was so surprised, he asked me who I was. J It was very unusual, but I do know that if I continue to do little things like that, he will be happy to drink every last drop!
For more great ideas on making your marriage more connected and fulfilled, come on over to my Facebook page, https://www.facebook.com/ParentingCoachPaula and check out the posts, books and videos.
Paula Tobey is founder of PheMOMenal Life Ministries a community for women to go get encouraged and equipped to be the best mom’s they can be to their children by living a healthy balanced life and by becoming all that God created them to be. For more information go check out her website here www.PheMOMenalLife.com
by kathilipp | Jan 27, 2015 | Clutter Free, Podcast, Relationships, The Husband Project, tips and ideas |
You hardly have time to eat or shower… how are you supposed to have time for sex?
Are you ready for a clutter free romance?
Our new series of books, “Hot Mama,” was written just for busy women like you—women who want fulfilling, intimate and hot sex lives without all of the clutter that makes our marriages ho-hum. And to kick it off, we’re talking about decluttering your life to make room for… sex. Listen and hear how to:
- Keep your bedroom a place that’s romantic and sexy, not depressing and cluttered.
- Find room in your busy schedule for sex and intimacy.
- Making sure your lingerie drawer is full of cute things.
- Make room in your life for all of the flirty fun things that happen in a marriage. (And find out exactly what Kathi is talking about when she says “her salad kit.”)
When you’re done, head over to http://www.kathilipp.com/fridaynightlights to sign up to get a free sex tip delivered to your inbox every Friday for ten weeks to help you keep your sex life fun, fulfilling and yes, even hot.
And here’s a link to the body lotion that’s mentioned in the podcast: Bath and Body Works Aromatherapy Orange Ginger Energy Body Lotion! You don’t want to miss that part of the show!
Erin MacPherson lives in Austin, Texas with her husband Cameron, her sons Joey and Will and her daughter Kate. She is the author of “The Christian Mama’s Guide Series“, a staff writer for Dun & Bradstreet and a freelancer for publications like Thriving Family Magazine, MOPS MomSense, FamilyLife Magazine, Daily Guideposts and BEMag. She blogs about her life, her kids and her faith at ChristianMamasGuide.com.
by kathilipp | Dec 23, 2014 | Christmas, Podcast, The Husband Project |
LOOKING FOR HOLIDAY GIFTS FOR YOUR MAN?
Christmas can be reverent, joyful, exuberant and fun, but it can also be… romantic. And Kathi and Erin want to show you how you can make this Christmas a wonderful time for your family, but also a hot, hot, hot time for your spouse. Listen in and hear:
- Kathi and Erin’s best tips for making your marriage a priority during the holidays.
- Ideas for romantic gifts for your spouse. (The kind of gifts that the kids shouldn’t see you open.)
- Fun and, yes, even sexy suggestions for holiday romance that will make your husband’s eyes light up.
Click over to Kathi’s blog and read her best red gift ideas and then stay tuned for more information about when Kathi and Erin’s new book releases.
Erin MacPherson lives in Austin, Texas with her husband Cameron, her sons Joey and Will and her daughter Kate. She is the author of “The Christian Mama’s Guide Series“, a staff writer for Dun & Bradstreet and a freelancer for publications like Thriving Family Magazine, MOPS MomSense, FamilyLife Magazine, Daily Guideposts and BEMag. She blogs about her life, her kids and her faith at ChristianMamasGuide.com.
by kathilipp | Dec 23, 2014 | Christmas, The Husband Project, tips and ideas |
Have I got some Red Gift ideas for you? Make Christmas fun for your man by buying him a few of these items!
1. Lingerie (for him to open, but you to wear)
2. A box of Red Hots with your husband’s picture on it.
3. Matching boxers
4. Warming lotion (use a coffee warmer to keep it warm)
5. PJs (You wear the top, he wears the bottoms)
6. A card with 10 reasons why you are grateful for everything he does
7. 21 Post it notes around your room of reasons you love him
8. Mistletoe on the headboard of your bed
9. A box of chocolates (with instructions for the two of you to share them in bed.)
Don’t forget to listen to this week’s podcast – Naughty…and nice holiday gifts for your man — RED GIFTS!
Photo courtesy of Free Digital Photos. (http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/images/Christmas_g54-Santa_Woman__Holding_A_Gift_Box_p123859.html)
by kathilipp | Dec 15, 2014 | Home, Relationships, The Husband Project |
In January, I’m launching Clutter Free: Quick and Easy Steps to Simplifying Your Space, but guess what? I’m also launching Happy Habits for Every Couple and you could be a part of our launch team!
Yes, I know…two books in one month! That’s how we roll!
So could your marriage use a little tune up?
When was the last time you flirted with your husband? Was it before you had kids?
Does your idea of a hot date include a drive-thru and springing for the extra-large fries?
What would your marriage look like if for 21 days you turned your attention to happy habits that will better your relationship? Plenty of books describe how to improve a marriage, how to save a marriage, even how to ramp up intimacy in a marriage. In Happy Habits for Every Couple, Kathi Lipp and husband Roger show you practical, fun-filled ways to put love and laughter back into your marriage.
Here are just a few of the results you’ll see when you put Happy Habits for Every Couple into practice:
new levels of warmth and tenderness in your relationship
a deeper sense of security with your spouse
a marriage filled with fun and flirting
If you haven’t given up the dream of being head-over-heels with your spouse again, following this 21-day plan will give you just the boost you need to bring you closer together.
Standard game rules apply: love on each other; share hope, grace, and encouragement; read the book and write a review.
We are sending out copies of the book next week, so tell us why you’d like to be a part of our new family!
If you are interested, just take a moment to fill out the application below:
HAPPY HABITS FOR EVERY COUPLE LAUNCH TEAM APPLICATION!
by kathilipp | Oct 30, 2014 | Relationships, The Husband Project |
Last week, I published a list of 10 Things to Say or Text When Marriage Is Hard. The response? Overwhelming. It became one of my most popular posts of all time. And I get it – marriage is hard and we are all looking for ways to connect during the hardest times.
But as much as words mean during these times, actions can be even more important. So here is my list of what to do for your husband when marriage is hard.
- Feed Him When life is at its busiest and we just seem to keep missing each other, food can make all the difference. Cook him one of his favorites- your recipe, his mother’s, whatever food makes him feel like everything might be OK for just this one hour. Bonus points if you sit down together and eat.
- Brag on Him Let him hear you bragging on him – to your friend, to your kids, to his mom. Pick one thing he did this week (went to work on a hard day, played tickle monster with the kids,) and make sure he knows how much it meant to you.
- Unburden Him Is there one of his regular chores that you could take off his list. A few months ago, I took my husband’s car to get washed. We were both having a rough week and I knew that he hated going and having it washed. When I got home I asked my son where my hubby was. My son said, “He said he was going to go get your car washed.”
- Seduce Him Sex has an instantly relaxing power over men. It is usually the fastest way to break down tensions and meet his needs.
- Date Him Plan a date geared for him. Get a gift card to his favorite dinner spot and two tickets to a movie that involves a ball, something blowing up, or robots.
- Treat Him A Jamba Juice can improve my husband’s outlook on the world. Surprise him with a little something to let him know that you were thinking of him.
- Encourage Him When life is hard, your man may have trouble seeing his worth. Reassure him that you see it, even when everything around you both is difficult.
- Tag Him Give your man a Facebook shout out and let the world know why he is just that awesome.
- Pray for Him Set an alarm on your phone and stop and pray for your husband every single day.
- Surprise Him I have an alert on Amazon any time my man’s favorite author comes out with a new book. Surprise him with something he loves.
