The Final Installment in this Week’s Eavesdropping on Other Project Managers

by | Dec 5, 2007 | The Husband Project, tips and ideas | 0 comments

Hello again, gals…

Here’s the final exchange between the three Project Managers; this from a wife who’s really given thought to her husband’s personal favorites:

“I totally agree with you M. My husband has not said anything. Sometimes I think I could drop a brick on his head and he wouldn’t notice! Maybe it is a guy thing! (more…)

Eavesdropping on Other Project Managers

by | Dec 3, 2007 | The Husband Project, tips and ideas | 0 comments

Hi, ladies –

According to the feedback I’ve received on the project, many of you, if not the majority, love seeing what other women are doing to make it work for them.

I have the privilege of being in the email loop of three great and funny girls who are holding each other accountable. Here’s a rundown from S about what she had in store for her guy this week and some very cool changes she is experiencing:

“Last week I arranged for a babysitter and B and I went out on a real date!!! (more…)

Questions – What if My Husband is MIA

by | Nov 27, 2007 | tips and ideas | 0 comments

Diane had a great question:

“I have a question already. Both my husband and I travel. He is in Houston today. Should I skip the day or just wait until he comes back and do the day I missed?”

Thanks for asking, Diane. Things can, and often do, come up within a three-week time frame. (I travel so much that if I had to wait to do the project until my husband and I were together for 21 Days, this book/blog would never have been written.) So, we must be a little flexible.

Go ahead and still do a “project” that doesn’t involve him physically being there. Some ideas:

  • Write him a note that he’ll find when he gets back from the trip.
  • Plan a dinner out for when he’s home and pull together your outfit ahead of time.
  • Eflirt with him (an e-mail or text message) while he’s away.
  • Buy his favorite snack (you can actually give it to him on another day).
  • Try and get to one of his “honey do list” items so he doesn’t have to.

So keep going, full steam ahead. This will keep you focused on him while he’s away, and hopefully will make you miss him as you do these little things for him.

Kathi – Your Project Coordinator

Invite Your Friends to Play

by | Nov 24, 2007 | tips and ideas | 1 comment

One of the tenants of The Husband Project is that every job is more fun when your friends are involved. One of our wives, Sugga-Lamb, (love the nickname, teehee) gave me a sample of the letter she sent to get her friends on board.

“Hello ladies, I’m participating in a secret experiment called the 21 Day Project. It is actually a ‘husband’ project and it is to be kept secret from our husbands. I’m going to give extra love and support to my husband for the next 21 days, unconditionally. Sounds easy enough, right? Well with the busyness of our everyday lives it will be easy to put the project to the side…something I don’t want to do. To keep me on track I’m required to have 2 accountability partners. I’ve emailed 4 people that I feel will be the best supporters of this project for me. That’s where you come in. Please check out the website at www.21dayproject.com & let me know if this is something you’d like to do with me. If you’d like to participate as well, great! The more the merrier! Thanks, ladies!”Feel free to copy this letter and pass it along to the women you want to do The Project with. have fun!

Thanksgiving For The Guy We Already Have

by | Nov 22, 2007 | tips and ideas | 0 comments

Hi Project Managers – I know many of you will not see this post until tomorrow, as you’re in the kitchen basting and microwaving at this very moment. (MY husband is making his world famous salsa which requires a great deal of counter space, so I thought I would clear out for a moment.)

It doesn’t matter when you see the post, because this whole project is like one big Thanksgiving Day. We are learning to be grateful for the guy we already have, instead of looking over the fence at the guy who takes the garbage out without being reminded.

We of The Husband Project are actively seeking to change our marriages, not waiting around for the men in our life to change before we do. It is the extreme version of marital chicken – seeing who is going to blink first before we will be nice. Not for us – we are choosing to be nice, everyday.

One of my favorite quotes in the world is from George Bernard Shaw:

This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I can think of no higher service in life than to make the most important man in our life feel special.

I pray that you choose to have a blessed and peaceful Thanksgiving.

Kathi – Your Project Coordinator