by kathilipp | Jan 19, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Does your husband have to remove a driveway-full of bikes before he can park his car? Is he a neat freak who comes home to Mount Fold-me on the couch every day?
Today’s focus is to remove one stressor from his life. Figure out what makes him feel a tiny sense of defeat each day and plan to remove it.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let me do these things, not to be noticed, but so my husband will feel loved and honored, even in the little things.
Getting Creative
- Does the sound of Cartoon Network blaring when he gets home drive your guy nuts? Maybe some Mozart (or Creedence Clearwater Revival) would be a better sound to greet him with.
- Does your he-man need to wade through piles of make-up and “product” just to brush his teeth? Time to declare some man territory in the bathroom. Put your stuff in baskets or on shelves so he has clear access to all his gear.
- Where’s his favorite spot in the house? If it’s the chair by the TV, make sure the remote is handy and his news magazine is at hand.
Your Project:
Remove some little annoyance from his life.
by kathilipp | Jan 18, 2008 | The Husband Project |
He probably won’t even notice. That’s OK – you’ll know that you wore something just for him.
Maybe it’s a shirt he’s given you a compliment on, or the necklace he got for your birthday.
What’s his favorite color? If you have a shirt in that color, that could be your project for the day. Revel in the fact that you’re the only one who knows you’re doing this just for him.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray my husband knows he’s special to me in every way – that he is worth the extra effort.
Getting Creative
Is your husband a sports fan? Maybe the sexiest thing you could wear is a t-shirt with his team’s logo on it.
Your Project:
Wear something just for him. You can go buy something, or pick an item you already own. He doesn’t need to know what you’re doing – you know and that’ll change a little something inside of you.
by kathilipp | Jan 17, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
Share ideas and your husband’s responses with other project managers by leaving a comment and you’ll be entered into the weekly drawing for a $10 Starbucks Card for you and your honey.
by kathilipp | Jan 17, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Today, you’ll be coming along side your husband to get the job done.
It could be as simple as taking out the garbage, cooking dinner, or washing his car. Offering to do a job with your man is a great way to get the job done, and have some fun along the way.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let my husband feel he has a partner in me. May he be blessed and supported by me everyday.
Getting Creative
Make it fun and get “his” work done so you can both play.
- Does he enjoy cooking? Maybe he’d appreciate a prep cook for the day. Let him perform his sauté magic while you chop, clean and do whatever it is that will let him release the Rocco within.
- If he’s one of those clean car freaks (we don’t have any at our house, but I‘ve heard they do exist) use your Handyvac skills to clean the inside while he works on the outside.
- Would he rather work alone? Get him a cold drink or a hot chocolate to let him know you’re grateful for the things he does.
Your Project:
Help him with one of his regular jobs or thank him for what he already does.
by kathilipp | Jan 16, 2008 | The Husband Project |
It’s food again, but this time it’s all about setting.
Maybe it’s doing a tailgater at a football game, or going to his favorite coffee shop and reading the paper with him on a Saturday morning. Donuts in bed? Whatever would be fun for him is the plan for the day.
We have a fire pit on our back patio. While our kids like to do s’mores over an open flame, we are more about cheese and fruit next to the fire.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, teach me to create places of celebration – no matter how small – in my home and for my husband.
Getting Creative
No need to get super fancy here. If he simply enjoys popcorn in front of the TV, that’s OK. Remember, just for this one little project, it’s all about him. Some other ideas?
If he enjoys being outside, how about dinner in the back yard? I have a friend who doesn’t have patio furniture, so she actually drags her wooden breakfast table and chairs outside. It’s not about resources, it’s about creativity.
One thing our family has done on several occasions, especially when the kids were little, was to have a carpet picnic. Spread out some quilts, watch a movie and enjoy the great indoors. (This would be a great night not to serve soup.)
For a more grownup encounter, how about a shower or bath with chocolates…
Your Project:
Make it food and make the location fun. Really, that’s all it is.
by kathilipp | Jan 16, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Just a reminder, ladies…each week there’s a Bonus Project, to be completed at the time of your choice within the next seven days.
How’s your lingerie wardrobe? Was the last teddy you bought a week before your wedding?
One night this week: Wear something sexy to sleep in. It doesn’t need to be one of Victoria’s sweet nothings. Perhaps just a silky nightshirt or a lacy camisole; the goal is to dump the Nike t-shirt you normally sport.
It’s your job to make sure that sleep is not all that happens in your pretty new nighty.
Make the extra effort to feel great about yourself – you know that some of that mood will rub off on your husband.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, sometimes I see sex as a burden instead of the gift it is for our marriage. Please help me feel confident in the area of our sex life.
by kathilipp | Jan 15, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
Secret Drawing! – Remember, post a comment and you’re entered into our weekly drawing for the $10 Starbucks Card for coffee for you and your honey.
by kathilipp | Jan 15, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Hello to all our project managers! Thank you for sharing your fun and creative ideas, plus your husbands’ responses — the stories and examples are great. I encourage you to take a peek at what some other wives are doing for their guys and maybe steal an idea or two if you’d like. Be sure to scroll through the entire project page and read notes from our initial launch in November and the current program. Keep it up, you’re doing a fabulous job! — Kathi Click here to check it out.
Most husbands are pretty visual creatures. They love to be proud of the way you look.
Is it possible (just maybe…please don’t take offense here) that you might not be putting forth the effort that you once did, when it comes to looking your best? Do you get dressed to the nines to go out for dinner with your girlfriends, but put on the same old sweatshirt to grab dinner with your man? I know, I know. Life is busy, you have a million things to do everyday, and not one of them is looking like a Barbie Doll every time you two run out to the grocery store.
The problem is our men want to be proud of us. Doing our hair, putting on the cute jeans instead of the super-comfy (read: butt-ugly) sweats, or even just putting on lip gloss shows that you care and are thinking about his needs as well. The next time the two of you leave the house together, put some extra effort in an area that you know is important to your guy.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, help me to see myself through my husband’s eyes. Help me to be creative and have fun so we can both find enjoyment in my appearance.
Getting Creative
Take ten minutes and pull three outfits together; ones you know you look hot in. (If you don’t own anything like that, then it may be time to take two hours and go shopping with a trusted friend, and find some clothes that make you feel smokin’.) Hang the pants, shirts and accessories all together on the same hanger so you have three cute at your fingertips the next time you’re heading out for dinner.
Every girl needs a pair of “go-to” jeans – those great ones that fit just right and look amazing with a pair of high-heels or boots. Make sure your “go-to” jeans are clean and ready to go at a moment’s notice.
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by kathilipp | Jan 14, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Physical touch is vital to relaxation. I have some friends whose husbands enjoy back massages. Some are more into sheet thread-counts.Find something that will help your husband relax. New pillows, massage lotions…your choice. Make it something that both of you will enjoy.
And yes, I do know what massage leads to. Just combine this with one of the Bonus Projects.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, please let me learn to enjoy my husband in every aspect of our marriage.
Getting Creative
- I’m way more inspired to do this project when I’ve just purchased a new lotion or massage oil. Run to the mall and buy a jar of “inspiration.”
- Get some luxurious new sheets – whether you are into silk or flannel, buy the best quality you can afford. Transform your bed into a cocoon where you can both snuggle down and barely resist staying there all day.
- People let their pillows go way too long without being changed. Take a look at yours – do they say luxury or limp, lumpy and lifeless? May be time to lay your head on something new.
Your Project:
Help your husband relax by either giving him a massage or providing some other form of physical comfort.
by kathilipp | Jan 14, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
By Paula Friedrichsen
A new year is upon us and we can’t let this opportunity for a fresh start and new beginning pass us by. 2008 stretches out before us full of possibilities. I believe this could be the year you experience a breakthrough in your marriage. Your whole life could change this year! But it’s up to you to seize the day. It’s up to you to call upon the Living God.
A close walk with Christ is the single most important component to a protected, committed, and joyful marriage. Spending time in His presence will bring us healing and restoration. And when we embrace life as a restored, healed Christian (or one who’s in the process of being healed and restored), we become easier to live with. We become more forgiving, more insightful, and more loving. As God’s transforming Word enters our hearts and minds, we find it easier to trust His plan for our marriages. “Let go and let God” becomes so much more than a catch phrase; it becomes an actuality in our lives.
As you step over the threshold of this New Year, know that you don’t go alone. Your friend, helper, comforter, counselor, and Lord steps into 2008 with you. He knows all that awaits you and your family in this New Year, and He stands ready to help you, guide you, and inspire you. So pluck up your faith, ask God for His blessing, and go boldly where no man has gone before; 2008!
Guest blogger Paula Friedrichsen is a conference speaker and the author of “The Man You Always Wanted is The One You Already Have” (Multnomah 2007). She lives in Northern California with her husband and teenaged daughter. www.PFMinistries.com
