by kathilipp | Oct 23, 2011 | Relationships, Uncategorized |
Loving Men through Spaghetti
(The following is an excerpt from Kathi’s book,THE “WHAT’S FOR DINNER?” SOLUTION)
When I was working on my first
book, The Husband Project, I set about doing a very unscientific research project – to find out what men like.
I know, I know. If you have beenconscious for any amount of time in the 21st century, the answer is
obvious. If you are married, and your marriage was a house, the world tells you that the place your husband wants to spend his time is in the bedroom.
And that’s true. To a point.
But guess what? There’s more to that answer. The guys I interviewed? The answer was twofold – the bedroom and the kitchen.
When it came to discovering ways to make men feel loved and cared for, food was way at the top of the list.
- They loved when their wives made their favorite chocolate cake for no reason
- They loved when there was dinner in the oven after a long day of work
- They loved it when their wives would stop by the bakery to pick up their favorite
éclair
- They loved when their wives would leave little treats around the house of the candy
persuasion
I knew that food was important to my husband (he takes his steaks and his salsa very seriously,) but what was amazing to see was how as my boys grew up, how food became more important to
them as well.
While my daughter Kimber will ask “When is dinner?”–so that she can plan the rest of her very busy social life—My boys want to know “What’s for dinner?”
We regularly have EMFH (Every Man For Himself) nights when I am working out of town. (Trust me, there are always enough fixin’s in the fridge to put together something yummy,) and each of the kids can cook for themselves. But, when I’m around, all three of the men who live in this house love it when I cook.
I have come to find out that there is a special security for men when they are being fed. I love how one of my friends, Mark, put it, “My wife gets a sense of security from me bringing home a paycheck every other week. It is the same for me and dinner. When I come home and there is something cooking, somehow, it just gives me a sense of security –like everything is right in the world.”
To win Kathi’s Books THE HUSBAND PROJECT and THE WHAT’S FOR DINNER? SOLUTION: Just tell us what special treat you’re going to surprise your husband with by Monday, October 31, 2011. We will announce the winners on Wednesday, November 2, 2011.
by kathilipp | Sep 17, 2011 | Relationships, The Husband Project |
I know that I’m usually the one giving the flirty advice, but today I wanted to share one of my favorite people with you: Arlene Pellicane
I love someone who loves their husband, so here are a few tips that she share over on the SpeakerChicks.com webiste
7 Ways to Show Hubby You Love Him
I would love to hear your ideas as well. What is something you’ve done in the last month (or ever,) that your husband just loved.
Discuss…
by kathilipp | Sep 6, 2011 | Relationships, The Husband Project |
I’ve been so focused on the whole food thing for the launch of THE WHAT’S FOR DINNER SOLUTION that I’ve neglected some of the important things in my life. Like my husband.
Yes. I think I need to read a certain book.
So I am giving myself 24 hours to do something flirty for Roger. I will report back.
This all just comes in time for something fun that I would love for you to put out some good gossip in the world about.
We are launching a Husband Project Book Club focusing on Military Wives in conjunction with Military MOPS. All are invited, but we are going to be chatting specifically with the ladies about how to support your man while deployed and serving our country.
Oh, and there are going to be over a hundred prizes….
So if you want to join in the fun, or share it with someone else, sign up over at The Book Club
Oh, and if you want to tell me how you are flirting with your husband in the next 24 hours, I would love the extra inspirations…
by kathilipp | Aug 25, 2011 | Relationships |
Today I’m guest posting over at one of my fav org’s blogs: MOPS
It’s my Guide to Having Vacations Sex at Home (and even with kids…)
And by the way – the MOPS blog is great. I would visit frequently…
by kathilipp | Jun 15, 2011 | Relationships |
Here is my interview with Marla, author of the brand new e-book The Husband’s Guide to Getting Lucky. Read this fun interview, and then find out how two of you will win Marla’s fun and fab books!
Kathi: Goodness, girl. You’re a brave little thing for tackling a book about sex. For GUYS. How on earth did this come about?
Marla: That, my friend, is a great question. And honestly? I swore this is the one book I’d never write. I write for women. Why? 1.) because I am one and 2.) guys don’t read books.
Oh, I’ve gotten e-mails from guys who swiped their wives’ copies of Is That All He Thinks About? and then asked when I was going to write one for them, but I always just laughed it off. And then I got 3 e-mails from 3 guys in 3 days all asking the same question. I took it as a sign and started writing. And the rest is you know…
Kathi: You know I love your writing style, girl. Will this book be written in the same “voice” as your others, or did you have to make some changes now that you’re writing for guys?
Marla: I know why you like my style–because it reminds you of your own! Actually, I didn’t change much at all. I added a “dude” at the end of a few sentences and called it a day. I’m not really a very girly writer, and quite a few guys actually read my blog (and enjoy it apparently), so I’m
sticking with what works for me.
Kathi: Like you said, guys don’t read as much as women do. How are you going to convince them to read this book?
Marla: The irresistible title and the killer comic book cover. ‘Nuff said.
Kathi: On a more serious note, do you think wives are going to feel comfortable with their husbands reading a book about sex written by a woman?
Marla: Sure. We women read books about sex written by guys. It’s no biggie. I’m pretty certain that a lot of wives are going to be reading this book (and buying it for their husbands), so I made sure it was something they’d be cool with. And there are several points in the book where I say, “Hey, you know what? We’ll touch on this briefly here, but I’d really rather you and your wife sit down and have this particular discussion.” I’ve prayed over this book more than any other I’ve written, and I’m confident that I wrote the words I needed to write.
Kathi: Give me two good reasons a wife should buy this book for her husband for Father’s Day.
Marla: 1.) $4.99 is an amazing bargain for a sweeter, kinder husband who’s more in tune with your emotional needs and 2.) He really doesn’t need another tool for his box or set of logo golf balls, does he? Don’t you want to get him what he reeeeally wants? I mean, let’s be real here. What husband doesn’t want to get lucky for Father’s Day?
Kathi: Thanks for hanging out here on the blog, friend. It’s been a treat.
Marla: The pleasure is all mine, girl. Can’t wait to finally meet you in person one of these days! A million blessings on all 12 of your books releasing in the next year!
I want you to have the chance to win The Husband’s Guide to Getting Lucky so leave a comment about what totally husband-centric thing you are going to do for your man this Father’s Day and I will enter you into a drawing to win either a $5 Gift Card to Amazon (so you can download your own copy,) or a copy of the great book Is That All He Thinks About ? You have to tell me by Friday evening at 8 California time to be entered into the drawing.
But my suggestion? Go ahead and get the book and just tell him in a card with a big red bow. Later on that night, just wear the bow.
Happy Father’s Day to you both.
by kathilipp | May 26, 2011 | Relationships |
If you have ever run in it.
If he has ever played a sport in it.
If you have ever worn it to drop your kids off in the morning.
If it has any holes that are not strategically placed by a clothing designer.
These are all examples of things you should not wear to bed tonight.
I’m not saying it has to be thigh-high stockings and a leather bustiers. (Who sleeps like that, anyway?) But, I do want you to step it up a notch from your normal pajama pants and high school PE t-shirt.
Tell me that you did it (no, I don’t need the gritty details,) and I will pick one winner to receive a yummy smelling candle for the next time your forgo the sweatpants.
