by kathilipp | Feb 23, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
As cliché as it may sound, our husbands want to be our heroes.
More than they want to know we love them, they want to know we respect them. They need to know they’re never the butt of our jokes; that, instead, they’re the go-to-guy in every story we tell.
Step One: Make an opportunity today to brag on your husband to someone else. Doesn’t matter if it’s one of your friends or one of his. Let that somebody know how lucky you are to be married to the guy that you have.
Step Two: Let your husband know you bragged on him. He needs to know that he’s the good guy in every story you tell.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight.
Getting Creative
Who are the important people in your husband’s life? Your kids, his parents, his friends? Be intentional about whom you chat with when you brag on him – it’s almost as important as actually doing it.
Having a hard time coming up with something? I still brag on my guy for things he did years ago. He loves when I tell the story of how brilliantly he proposed (there were waterfalls and stuffed portabella mushrooms involved…).
Your Project:
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you share with him what you said, and to whom.
To read how other husbands responded to great gossip, or to leave a comment, click here.
by kathilipp | Feb 23, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
Most guys don’t spend a lot of time hanging out with their buddies-you are their buddy. They married you to have a built in friend to do those things with (the fact that the two of you can have sex is definitely a bonus as well…)
My husband loves to go to the woods, build a fire and have a cookout. I’m more of an eating-out-with-white-tablecloths kind of girl. But, you know while we were dating, I was the happiest “camper” around. I would have hunted wild moose just to be with him.
It’s time to think about those things your husband loves to do with you-his buddy. Maybe it’s hiking up a mountain, hanging out at Best Buy, or watching his alma mater’s team play football at the local high school. Doesn’t matter if you like it or not-your fun will come from watching the look on your husband’s face as he reclaims some of his long forgotten loves. (Video gaming, anyone?)
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray that my husband can view me as his friend and lover, as you have designed.
Your Project:
Initiate a time to do something your husband used to love. Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport or pastime, it’s time for you to get involved. Be his buddy today.
Share your fun time with other project managers; to leave a comment, click here.
by kathilipp | Feb 20, 2008 | The Husband Project |
by Nancy Anderson
Twenty five years ago, my marriage was on the brink of divorce, but through a series of miracles my husband and I made a decision to rebuild our marriage. This is the second of a four-part series, all about giving your husband the V.I.P. treatment: respect him Verbally, Intellectually and Physically. (Click here to read part one, the introduction.)
Respect Him Verbally
Cut out (OK…cut back) complaining and add in compliments.
If you want to have a peaceful, happy marriage, learn the art of the compliment. (more…)
by kathilipp | Feb 20, 2008 | Updates |
Thanks to John and Sherry for sharing The Husband Project with all of our great friends in Pittsburgh.
We are so glad to have so many new Project Managers on board! There are going to be a lot of happy husbands out there thanks to you two…
by kathilipp | Feb 19, 2008 | Uncategorized |
This recipe is from a delightful B&B where Roger and I once stayed. It’s a tasty morning treat, and certainly hearty enough for a man’s appetite. Hope you enjoy it as much as we did. ~ Kathi
Ingredients:
2 1/2 cups frozen shredded hash brown potatoes, or Tater Tots
3/4 cup shredded Monterey Jack with (optional) jalapeno peppers
1 pkg. Knorr Leek recipe mix
1 cup chopped fully cooked ham or Canadian bacon (optional)
1/4 cup sliced green onion
4 eggs beaten or 1 cup egg substitute
1 – 12 oz. can evaporated milk (or 1 ½ cups evaporated skim milk)
1/4 tsp. pepper
1/8 tsp. salt
1/2 lb. asparagus or mushrooms, washed and cut into 1″ pieces
4 to 5 tomatoes, coarsely chopped
Spray a 2-quart square baking dish with Pam or other cooking spray. Arrange potatoes evenly in the bottom of the dish. Sprinkle cheese, ham, green onion over all. In a mixing bowl combine eggs, milk, pepper, salt, soup mix. Pour over mixture in baking dish. Sprinkle with Crazy Jane’s salt and/or Mrs. Dash. Cover with foil or plastic wrap and refrigerate overnight. Next morning bake uncovered at 350 for 1/2 hour. Remove from oven; add asparagus or mushrooms and tomatoes. Bake for another ½ hour until golden brown. Let stand 5 minutes before serving.
by kathilipp | Feb 19, 2008 | Uncategorized |
Congratulations to Sheesh, our project manager who won this week’s prize, Under the Tuscan Sun DVD, by submitting the following comment regarding Project 11: Eliminate Something that Makes Him Crazy.
Sheesh says:
As in most households, the laundry never ends around here. On average, I think I do about 10 loads per week. With a baby on the way, it can only mean even more loads of laundry. I am very good at getting it done and folding it. However, moving the folded laundry out of the basket and into the drawers is my least favorite chore. My husband complains that he can never find his clean clothes, especially socks, as they are residing somewhere in the bottomless hole of the laundry basket, secretly hiding between the children’s t-shirts and my jeans. My husband stayed out late tonight, going to our daughter’s preschool meeting. I made sure all the clothes are clean AND put away, so he won’t have to face the laundry abyss in the morning.
To Sheesh: Be sure to contact us (kathi@thehusbandproject.org) so we can send out your DVD right away.
To all Project Managers: Remember to submit your comments. Other project managers enjoy reading comments to get ideas and see how other hubbies are responding. Your comment can be short and sweet, or you can provide as many details as you like. With each entry your name is entered into our weekly drawing: this week you have a chance to win a $10 gift card to Bath and Body Works. You’ll be able to spend a little time loving yourself on purpose with a fragrant lotion, shower gel or even some fun lip gloss — for some really kissable lips! (And in the end, your guy will benefit, too, from whatever you choose.)
Click here to leave a comment and get entered to win today.
by kathilipp | Feb 19, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
What does your husband consider relaxing?
One of the most marriage-testing conversations a couple can have takes place in the aisles of your local
video store. You want romance and subtitles – he wants guns and grunts.
Let him win the media wars as you suggest an action-packed, car-chasing-things-exploding thriller.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, help me enjoy the things my husband enjoys. Let him see that I try to connect with him in ways that are big and small.
Getting Creative
- It doesn’t matter if this happens at home or the local Cineplex. Just find the movie and go.
- Don’t want your husband’s suspicions aroused? If you’re renting, perhaps get two movies – one you both agree on and one just for him.
Your Project:
Find a movie that he will love and watch it together – without whining.
Tell us about your macho movie night; click here.
by kathilipp | Feb 18, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
Keep it simple today.
Put a Post-It in his briefcase, on his dashboard, in his wallet; anywhere he will find it. Make it fun, make it flirty, but just make sure he is the one who will find it. Wink-wink.
Prayer for Today
Wherever he is God, remind my husband that he is loved and thought of.
Getting Creative
Think about your husband’s day and all the places he might find your note:
- The spare change tray in his car
- His drawer in the bathroom
- Under his car keys
- Your mailbox
- In his shoe
- In the medicine cabinet
Your Project:
Leave a cute and flirty note for your husband to find.
To leave a comment click here.
by kathilipp | Feb 18, 2008 | The Husband Project |
By Nancy C. Anderson
My husband, Ron, admits that he used to be jerk, but I discovered a secret formula that turned him into a loving husband: I started treating him like a VIP! Ron always wanted me to respect him, but I thought he had to earn it — and I had to feel it — before I could do it. Wrong.
We women are very good at pointing out our husbands’ faults and failures and punishing them for not meeting our needs, (more…)
by kathilipp | Feb 17, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
Back to food.
One of our favorite getaway spots is a little bed and breakfast in the mountains. When you ask my husband why he likes it so much, you very well might hear about the cheese and cracker plate with fruit that is always waiting for us when we arrive.
It’s time to take a little of the B&B experience home.
Why not have a snack to share when he gets home? Some of his favorite nuts and chocolates up in your room, or some cheese and crackers out on the patio could be just the transition he needs after a long day.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, remind me to treat my husband with more care and honor than any guest who comes into our home.
Getting Creative
- My husband loves a special kind of root beer that we cannot keep in the house. (With four teenagers it’s hard to keep them from eating anything within their line of sight.) If I want to make sure he can have a cold drink after work, I hide it under the veggies in the crisper – no chance of the kids looking there.
- If your husband gets home before you do, plan ahead by hiding a treat in the fridge for him. Call during the day to let him know that it’s waiting for him.
To read some ideas, or to leave a comment click here.
