537: Come Sit With Me
with Becky Keife
Do you dread having hard conversations? Or try to avoid them altogether? Hard conversations are a part of every relationship if we are in it for the long haul. It’s easy to fill in the gaps with our assumptions. What if we learned how to navigate these conversations in a way that makes every relationship stronger and better? Come and sit with Kathi and Becky Keife to learn how to have hard, but healthy conversations, and how to prepare your heart and mind for them by:
- Coming to the table with curiosity
- Asking for a heart of tenderness
- Coming to an understanding
Come Sit with Me:
How to Delight in Differences,
Love through Disagreements,
and Live with Discomfort
Being human is hard. Being in relationships with other humans is even harder. People are complex and relationships are messy but loving one another well is possible. Whether navigating political or religious differences, dealing with toxic people or our own unforgiveness, this book tackles the struggles no one really wants to talk about. But there is hope! We can actually grow closer to God and others through the circumstances we’d rather run from.
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Becky Keife
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I really need to work on having hard conversations and how to better deal with things! I think I need to be a better listener and use better wording when I talk about the things that have hurt me. I need to give more grace to myself and others!! Thank you for the reminder of something important I need to work on!
I think having a neutral area can really help both parties when a difficult conversation is coming. Also, coming in with curiosity and/or empathy has always been helpful for me to stay calm.
I am going to speak words of grace on a continual basis so the other person knows that difficult conversations are welcome.
Is iTunes the only platform for subscribing to the podcast? I’m trying to listen more consistently.
I am going to look forward to sitting down and I want my focus to be on what is right about things instead of what is wrong.
I want to remind myself as I sit with this person of where my focus is and to remind myself of this wisdom:
For peace, be aware of your focus.
I am going to invite people to join me in daily activities (walking, gardening, etc.) to make hard conversations more comfortable.
Ask about the others person’s thoughts and feelings BEFORE telling them what I think/feel.
“Asking for a heart of tenderness”
Going into a different conversation with a heart of tenderness.