by kathilipp | Feb 1, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
It’s time to talk about sex, ladies.
Your man needs and wants sex, probably more than you do.
If a man feels like he’s desirable to you, the love of his life, the other areas that he may be struggling in (work, parenting, etc.) seem somehow more manageable.
One time this week, it’s your job to initiate sex. For some of you, this is going to be way beyond your comfort zone. Do what you can – if it means snuggling, do that. The idea here is to take the first step and be open and tender.
In my experience, it’s better to shoot for earlier in the week to “make your move,” so that if things come up (he has to work late, sick kids, etc.) you still have some time to check this off your list.
In preparation for your romantic evening, I encourage you to pick up a book on the subject. Let it be your inspiration in case things have become a little predictable (or downright non-existent).
Two of my favorites, both written by Dr. Kevin Leman:
“Sex Begins in the Kitchen” and “Sheet Music”
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by kathilipp | Feb 1, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
As cliché as it may sound, our husbands want to be our heroes.
More than they want to know we love them, they want to know we respect them. They need to know they’re never the butt of our jokes; that, instead, they’re the go-to-guy in every story we tell.
Step One: Make an opportunity today to brag on your husband to someone else. Doesn’t matter if it’s one of your friends or one of his. Let that somebody know how lucky you are to be married to the guy that you have.
Step Two: Let your husband know you bragged on him. He needs to know that he’s the good guy in every story you tell.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight.
Getting Creative
Who are the important people in your husband’s life? Your kids, his parents, his friends? Be intentional about whom you chat with when you brag on him – it’s almost as important as actually doing it.
Having a hard time coming up with something? I still brag on my guy for things he did years ago. He loves when I tell the story of how brilliantly he proposed (there were waterfalls and stuffed portabella mushrooms involved…).
Your Project:
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you share with him what you said, and to whom.
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by kathilipp | Jan 31, 2008 | Uncategorized |
Congratulations to Karmyn, our project manager who won this week’s $10 Starbucks card by submitting the following comment regarding Project 15: What Not to Wear. (Click here to read more Project 15 comments.)
Karmyn Says:
What a fun project! I went to Gilroy Outlets where I found 2 huge stores of lingerie at great prices. I bought a very elegant white nightgown and a very flirty fun floral hot pink set. So NOT me!!! (I normally wear my running clothes to bed – pathetic, I know but very practical!) Hubby is traveling this week but I’m looking forward to his reaction upon his return *smile*.
To Karmyn: Please contact us at kathi@thehusbandproject.org, so we can send your Starbucks card right away.
To all Project Managers: Remember to submit your comments. Other project managers enjoy reading comments to get ideas and see how other hubbies are responding. Your comment can be short and sweet, or you can provide as many details as you like. With each entry your name is entered into our weekly drawing for a chance to win a $10 Starbucks card. (Click here to leave a comment.)
I hope you’re enjoying The Husband Project as much as your guys!
Kathi
by kathilipp | Jan 31, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
Most guys don’t spend a lot of time hanging out with their buddies-you are their buddy. They married you to have a built in friend to do those things with (the fact that the two of you can have sex is definitely a bonus as well…)
My husband loves to go to the woods, build a fire and have a cookout. I’m more of an eating-out-with-white-tablecloths kind of girl. But, you know while we were dating, I was the happiest “camper” around. I would have hunted wild moose just to be with him.
It’s time to think about those things your husband loves to do with you-his buddy. Maybe it’s hiking up a mountain, hanging out at Best Buy, or watching his alma mater’s team play football at the local high school. Doesn’t matter if you like it or not-your fun will come from watching the look on your husband’s face as he reclaims some of his long forgotten loves. (Video gaming, anyone?)
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray that my husband can view me as his friend and lover, as you have designed.
Your Project:
Initiate a time to do something your husband used to love. Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport or pastime, it’s time for you to get involved. Be his buddy today.
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by kathilipp | Jan 29, 2008 | The Husband Project |
What does your husband consider relaxing?
One of the most marriage-testing conversations a couple can have takes place in the aisles of your local video store. You want romance and subtitles – he wants guns and grunts.
Let him win the media wars as you suggest an action-packed, car-chasing-things-exploding thriller.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, help me enjoy the things my husband enjoys. Let him see that I try to connect with him in ways that are big and small.
Getting Creative
- It doesn’t matter if this happens at home or the local Cineplex. Just find the movie and go.
- Don’t want your husband’s suspicions aroused? If you’re renting, perhaps get two movies – one you both agree on and one just for him.
Your Project:
Find a movie that he will love and watch it together – without whining.
by kathilipp | Jan 28, 2008 | The Husband Project |
By Paula Friedrichsen
Last week I sat on the floor of my den and looked at family pictures for over three hours. I didn’t intend to spend all afternoon looking at pictures. I had simply decided to dust off the photo albums and move on to my next project. But one thing led to another, (more…)
by kathilipp | Jan 28, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Keep it simple today. Put a Post-It in his briefcase, on his dashboard, in his wallet; anywhere he will find it. Make it fun, make it flirty, but just make sure he is the one who will find it. Wink-wink.
Prayer for Today
Wherever he is God, remind my husband that he is loved and thought of.
Getting Creative
Think about your husband’s day and all the places he might find your note:
- The spare change tray in his car
- His drawer in the bathroom
- Under his car keys
- Your mailbox
- In his shoe
- In the medicine cabinet
Your Project:
Leave a cute and flirty note for your husband to find.
by kathilipp | Jan 28, 2008 | The Husband Project, Uncategorized |
Thank you to project manager Karmyn for this delicious recipe:
Deluxe Chicken Breasts – Nothing fancy, just tender, cheese-sauced chicken breasts that are good enough to add to your list of weekly specials.
Prep Time 30 minutes
Cook Time 15 minutes
Serves 4
Ingredients:
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/4 cup dry bread crumbs
2 egg whites, lightly beaten
2 tablespoons water
4 boneless, skinless chicken breast (approx 4 oz each)
2 tablespoons vegetable oil
For the Sauce:
2 tablespoons butter
1 tablespoon all-purpose flour
1 cup skim milk
1/2 cup shredded cheddar cheese
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Combine flour and bread crumbs in a shallow flat dish. In a shallow bowl, whisk together egg whites and water. Dip chicken in egg white water mixture, then dredge in bread crumb mixture, turning to coat. In large skillet, heat oil over medium high heat. Add chicken; cook, turning once, until browned about 10 minutes (5 minutes on each side). Place chicken in a lightly greased shallow baking dish. Bake at 350 until cooked through, approx 15 minutes.
To prepare sauce, in a small saucepan over medium heat melt butter. Stir in flour until well combined. Slowly add milk, stirring constantly. Cook, stirring, until thickened about 8-10 minutes. Remove from heat; stir in cheddar cheese. (The heat of the sauce will melt cheese)
Place chicken breasts on serving tray. Drizzle with sauce. Serve immediately. Mmmmm!
by kathilipp | Jan 27, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Back to food.
One of our favorite getaway spots is a little bed and breakfast in the mountains. When you ask my husband why he likes it so much, you very well might hear about the cheese and cracker plate with fruit that is always waiting for us when we arrive.
It’s time to take a little of the B&B experience home.
Why not have a snack to share when he gets home? Some of his favorite nuts and chocolates up in your room, or some cheese and crackers out on the patio could be just the transition he needs after a long day.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, remind me to treat my husband with more care and honor than any guest who comes into our home.
Getting Creative
- My husband loves a special kind of root beer that we cannot keep in the house. (With four teenagers it’s hard to keep them from eating anything within their line of sight.) If I want to make sure he can have a cold drink after work, I hide it under the veggies in the crisper – no chance of the kids looking there.
- If your husband gets home before you do, plan ahead by hiding a treat in the fridge for him. Call during the day to let him know that it’s waiting for him.
by kathilipp | Jan 26, 2008 | The Husband Project |
My husband loves to go out to dinner. He promises me it has nothing to do with my cooking; he just likes the whole experience of dining on the town. Recently, I went to his favorite Mexican restaurant and got a gift card with just enough on it to cover dinner for two. When he drove into the garage that evening, I ambushed him and let him know that dinner was on me tonight.
With the car still running I jumped in and we headed to our slightly impromptu date night. That has probably been the most successful project for me so far – he still talks about how great it was to come home and see that it was all planned out.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, it’s my deepest desire that my husband knows he is loved and cherished. Let my words, planning and actions reflect that everyday.
Getting Creative
- If you don’t know whether your husband will be in the kind of mood that an ambush dinner requires, present him with the gift card to be used tonight, or another night of his choice.
- Steaks on the BBQ when he gets home may be just the thing your man would love.
- The aroma of cooking can be as much a part of this project as the food itself. Having lasagna baking in the oven with garlic bread ready to go would be most husbands’ dreams come true.
Your Project:
Make it his favorite meal – whether it’s eating out or eating in.
