by kathilipp | Mar 6, 2008 | The Husband Project |
We start off the week by getting rid of one piece of “comfortable” clothing. You know the one – it could be the pair of sweats, some comfy slippers, or a college sweatshirt. Your husband may not even notice that you have done away with it. The point is you are taking another step towards thinking about him when getting dressed, instead of going to those sad, sad, jammie bottoms once again.
Prayer for Today Dear God, make me focus on actions that change my attitude, instead of trying to change my husband.
Getting Creative Just get rid of it. That’s all. You know what “it” is. For me, it was my pair of brown, cropped sweatpants that I thought were perfectly acceptable…but my husband would ask, “Do you want time to change before we leave?” even if we were just going to pick up a carton of milk. I got the hint.
- What do your slippers look like? If they’re the pair you had in college, time to walk them out the door.
- For one of my friends, it was a hair scrunchie that was seeing a little too much time outside of the house. (There was a bonus here because a number of her friends were about to have a scrunchie intervention. This project kept her out of a scrunchie 12-Step Program.)
Your Project: Get rid of one item of clothing you know your husband is not in love with. If it’s a favorite that you’ll have a hard time parting with, go ahead and purchase a replacement you know your guy will like.
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by kathilipp | Mar 6, 2008 | The Husband Project |
One time this week: Time to clear out the house. If you have kids, send them to grandma’s for the night. If you have a regular bunco game, skip it. Cancel appointments with your friends and make one with your husband. Let him know early in the day what you would like to do tonight. This could be one of his better workdays in a long time.
Prayer for Today Dear God, sometimes I see sex as a burden instead of the gift it is for our marriage. Please help me feel confident in the area of our sex life.
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by kathilipp | Mar 5, 2008 | The Husband Project |
It’s an unfair fact of life – men love a woman who can cook. This is the project where you get to put your culinary talent to use. Cook something he loves.If you’re not a cook, look for something easy. (We’ll be sending out recipes once a week that any non-cook can master.)
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray that my husband knows my love for him by my efforts, not just the results.
Your Project:
Make your husband something special in the kitchen (reservations don’t count).
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by kathilipp | Mar 4, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Your life is so busy. It’s hard to find a moment for yourself each day. There are days when I could go for hours, so involved in my own projects that I can totally forget to think about, or pray for, my husband.
What can you put in place to remind you to think about your husband throughout the day? Be creative. Maybe it’s a picture of him on your dashboard, or spraying his cologne on a scarf and keeping it in your purse.
Whatever it is that reminds you of him, keep it around so you can call him later that day and say, “You have been on my mind all day.” Trust me, it will make his day.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, help me with any attitude of entitlement I have about our workload being equal. Help me to have an attitude of service instead of bitterness in every situation.
Getting Creative
Set an alarm on your cell phone for every couple of hours today. Let this be a reminder to stop and pray for your husband throughout the day.
Do you have a picture of your husband on your cell phone? Make sure you do so that when he calls, his cute face will show up. (Ask a techie teenager to show you how to program this on your cell.)
Your Project:
Set up reminders during your day to think and pray for your husband. Let him know sometime during the day that he has been on your mind.
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by kathilipp | Mar 3, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Be intentional about noticing the great stuff he does. If he does a great job cooking the pasta, or playing with the kids, big or small, it doesn’t matter.
It’s time to really seek out all the things he excels at. Keep the list to yourself or let him in on how wonderful he really is.
Just once today, let him know something you love about him.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, my husband has so many great qualities I can overlook. Let me see him with new eyes today.
Getting Creative
Keep a 3×5 card in your pocket today. Every time some great quality about your guy comes to mind, make a note of it.
If you’re having a hard time coming up with items for your list, ask around. Ask your friends, your mom, your kids – anyone who is a fan of your man can help point out all the good stuff.
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by kathilipp | Mar 2, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Does your husband have to remove a driveway-full of bikes before he can park his car? Is he a neat freak who comes home to Mount Fold-me on the couch every day?
Today’s focus is to remove one stressor from his life. Figure out what makes him feel a tiny sense of defeat each day and plan to remove it.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let me do these things, not to be noticed, but so my husband will feel loved and honored, even in the little things.
Getting Creative
- Does the sound of Cartoon Network blaring when he gets home drive your guy nuts? Maybe some Mozart (or Creedence Clearwater Revival) would be a better sound to greet him with.
- Does your he-man need to wade through piles of make-up and “product” just to brush his teeth? Time to declare some man territory in the bathroom. Put your stuff in baskets or on shelves so he has clear access to all his gear.
- Where’s his favorite spot in the house? If it’s the chair by the TV, make sure the remote is handy and his news magazine is at hand.
Your Project:
Remove some little annoyance from his life.
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by kathilipp | Mar 1, 2008 | The Husband Project |
He probably won’t even notice. That’s OK – you’ll know that you wore something just for him.Maybe it’s a shirt he’s given you a compliment on, or the necklace he got for your birthday.
What’s his favorite color? If you have a shirt in that color, that could be your project for the day. Revel in the fact that you’re the only one who knows you’re doing this just for him.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray my husband knows he’s special to me in every way – that he is worth the extra effort.
Getting Creative
Is your husband a sports fan? Maybe the sexiest thing you could wear is a t-shirt with his team’s logo on it.
Your Project:
Wear something just for him. You can go buy something, or pick an item you already own. He doesn’t need to know what you’re doing – you know and that’ll change a little something inside of you.
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by kathilipp | Mar 1, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Today, you’ll be coming along side your husband to get the job done.
It could be as simple as taking out the garbage, cooking dinner, or washing his car. Offering to do a job with your man is a great way to get the job done, and have some fun along the way.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let my husband feel he has a partner in me. May he be blessed and supported by me everyday.
Getting Creative
Make it fun and get “his” work done so you can both play.
- Does he enjoy cooking? Maybe he’d appreciate a prep cook for the day. Let him perform his sauté magic while you chop, clean and do whatever it is that will let him release the Rocco within.
- If he’s one of those clean car freaks (we don’t have any at our house, but I‘ve heard they do exist) use your Handyvac skills to clean the inside while he works on the outside.
- Would he rather work alone? Get him a cold drink or a hot chocolate to let him know you’re grateful for the things he does.
Your Project:
Help him with one of his regular jobs or thank him for what he already does.
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by kathilipp | Mar 1, 2008 | The Husband Project |
It’s food again, but this time it’s all about setting.
Maybe it’s doing a tailgater at a football game, or going to his favorite coffee shop and reading the paper with him on a Saturday morning. Donuts in bed? Whatever would be fun for him is the plan for the day.
We have a fire pit on our back patio. While our kids like to do s’mores over an open flame, we are more about cheese and fruit next to the fire.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, teach me to create places of celebration – no matter how small – in my home and for my husband.
Getting Creative
No need to get super fancy here. If he simply enjoys popcorn in front of the TV, that’s OK. Remember, just for this one little project, it’s all about him. Some other ideas?
If he enjoys being outside, how about dinner in the back yard? I have a friend who doesn’t have patio furniture, so she actually drags her wooden breakfast table and chairs outside. It’s not about resources, it’s about creativity.
One thing our family has done on several occasions, especially when the kids were little, was to have a carpet picnic. Spread out some quilts, watch a movie and enjoy the great indoors. (This would be a great night not to serve soup.)
For a more grownup encounter, how about a shower or bath with chocolates…
Your Project:
Make it food and make the location fun. Really, that’s all it is.
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by kathilipp | Feb 27, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Sorry I missed posting yesterday. My faithful editor, Teresa, is off sunning herself on a Carribean cruise (where is her loyality…) and I have the flu that doesn’t kill you – you just wish it did.
Thanks for the grace – and remember to love your man – no matter if you get an e-mail from The Husband Project – or not.
