So often, when money is tight, nerves are strained, and everyone is just so tired, it’s easy to wait for your husband to make the first move. But sometimes, we have to lay down our right to be right.
Sometimes, we need to look at not just the situation, but the relationship, and see what the right thing is to do. Usually, when one of us lays down our “right to be right” great things can happen in our relationships.
So pick one. I’m not asking you to lie. There is ONE on this list that you can say to your husband- fighting or now – and it will soften the hard lines that can develop between the two of you.
If you’re really in a tough spot, try texting it to him. It’s amazing what a well timed text can do for your relationship.
- “What do you need from me right now?”
- “How can I help you take some of the burden off today?”
- “I’m sorry.”
- “Thank you for_____________”
- “I’m proud of you because________________”
- “Our kids are lucky to have a dad like you.”
- “Please forgive me.”
- “I love you because___________”
- “I’m going to make more of an effort to____________”
- Thank you for being someone I can respect.
Tell me in the comments which one you said to your husband, or suggest one of your own. One random commenter will will a copy of Praying God’s Word for Your Husband.
Last week’s winner was Danielle!
I’m in a bitter stage in my marriage but I did text him to let him know that our boys are lucky to have him as their dad. One step at a time!
I’m setting a reminder to text him 3 times a week. First will be im proud of him. Tomorrow he heads into a job interview and he’s so nervous. I cant wait to build him up.
Sometimes I just grab my husband’s hand and put it on my lap. Sometimes I just hug him. Sometimes if he’s gone to bed already, I just snuggle in. Other times, something silly helps to soften it up, like, ‘oooh kids, look at my hunk of man!’, which grosses my kids out but what man can resist an ego boost and a laugh? Over the years, I’ve come to learn that I need to appreciate the baby steps my husband takes and not look at negatives too much. Otherwise I’ll be the one who’s upset all the time. And I’ve realized that I’m not going anywhere, because GOD said so and I love my husband. I choose to love him, like God chose to love me, even when I didn’t deserve it. It’s not always perfect, but it gets better and easier with time! Most importantly, PRAY!
I love that so much!
“Thank you for working hard to provide for our family.” He works nights and it’s tough with me working days.
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I text him thank you for being a man I can respect. It is commendable that he followed through on his commitments when he felt horrible.
I’ve said I was proud of him ! Its important for a husband to fill appreciated and know you see how hard he works for the family. It’s important to not take him for granted !
I have said quite a few of those since I heard you speak at a MOPS conference a few years ago (where I purchased and love your book ‘The Husband Project’). I try to make them a sincere habit. I try not to wait until marriage is hard and things get rough. I try to compliment him on a regular basis, but only when I mean it and can be sincere about it – otherwise it is just flattery and means nothing to either of us. One of my greatest rewards was when my 9 yr. old son asked us why we didn’t fight. (He thought – b/c he saw on TV – that parents were supposed to fight.)
We just had our second daughter and she has been a bit more of a challenging baby than our first. Things are tougher and we have been quite tired lately and our relationship has definitely had some rough days since she’s been born. I sent my husband this message tonight because I appreciate all he does for our family! “I love you because you are truly a caring & loving husband and Dad! Xo!” He was caught off guard and it made him feel loved, even though we may not always be as understanding and patient as we should be with one another I appreciate what a loving man he is to myself & our daughters!
I thanked my husband for being a great father to our children. He is an awesome father and our kids are lucky to have a wonderful dad like him.
Frequently I tell my husband of 45 years, “THANK YOU for marrying me!”
My husband is going through chemo and had a treatment yesterday. He does not like being sick and needing help. He is THE MAN. He never likes to accept help from me or anyone. We are nearing the end of his treatments and now the question of “Did the treatments work” and “Has the cancer invaded somewhere else.” I sent him a text message that just said “FAITH!”
My husband is going through chemo and had a treatment yesterday. He does not like being sick and needing help. He is THE MAN. He never likes to accept help from me or anyone. We are nearing the end of his treatments and now the question of “Did the treatments work” and “Has the cancer invaded somewhere else.” I sent him a text message that just said “FAITH!” That is what we have right now.
I texted my husband and told him I am sorry that I did not help him do something last night regarding his work. I promised to do better and told him I love him.
I told my hubby how lucky our kids are to have him for a dad because even though he can’t stand rap music he is sacrificing his weekend to take our son to a Rap concert of his choice for his 17th birthday. He’s an awesome dad always sacrificing for his family!!
Take #1 off the list. I hate when I am asked that. It can be taken in different ways, and most of the time it sounds more like she’s is saying she already done everything and the guy is being to hard to deal with. As shown in the comments it is said way to often. it gets really old.
Especially when we are short on money, I thank my husband for everything he does to provide for us. I name things such as, we have a home of our own and five beautiful children with clothes on their backs andfull bellies! I also remind him how much we love him and no aamount of money would be worth not having him home with us every night!
This is so great at any stage of marriage,(sinse we’ve been married 56 years) I’m still reminding myself to practice my great guys love language: touch and words of affirmation. He is awesome. He’s cooking supper right now. Not all the things I would like, but there’s love there sinse my love language are acts of service and gifts. Isn’t it great how God puts together opposites.
I texted I am sorry.. I had a bad day yesterday and i tend to take it out on him.. I need to learn to control my words, they need to lift him up not put him down.. or make him feel bad. I hate they way I act when i am tired.. still learning how to make better choices. I am a slow learner 🙁
I texted What do you need from me right now? Our schedules have been busy and we have not had time to sit and be on the “same page” for awhile.
I texted him, “thank you for being a man the kids and I can respect. Speaking out praise and affirmation to my husband is not something that comes naturally to me. But I’ve been trying the last several weeks to speak to him what God says about him. He needs me to build him up so he can feel safe to be the man God called him to be.
I texted him simply. “I love you” That en tales so much…..and words we all need to hear everyday, multiple times a day.
I send me a Text “I Love you my Mr. _________!! <3 "
Or I will send him a text and remind him that " I like you"
I also post on his Facebook how proud I am of him for taking such good care of us as a truck driver and being a way from us..
Just tell him that "He is your super hero"
We are going through a hard patch right now, and I tell him often, “We will get through this.” That way, I let him know we still have to work through the hard issues, but at the end, I have faith we will make it.
This is something that both my wife and I have used, and it’s great – “we will get through this” doesn’t transmit anything that can ring false.
I sent him, I’m going to make more of an effort to speak your love language.
I am thankful that God sent you to me, twice.
Saying I love you, and I’m glad you are mine. Also, if I am with my husband, I ask him if we can pray together, about the problem, and pray for our marriage. If we are not together, then I let him know that I love him, and he is in my thoughts and prayers.
Good thoughts (and things a husband should do, as well), but one caveat –
Make sure that your previous behaviour is consistent with the message. If you’ve shown a lot of disrespect through words and actions, a comment about “being someone I respect” does more harm than good. It’s just words that add another brick to the wall.
I send text periodically during the dsy to trll him I love you. I sometimes tell how much I appreciste what he has done gor me. And I tell him he fud a good job. He rebuilt out kitchen recently and I yold him thsnk you. My husband has dhown me how to enjoy life and I love him very much and yes we have bsd dsys but I font hesitate to ssy sorry
I am sending a text to thank my husband for helping me clean the house last night. I am a stay at home mom and he works full time. We worked really hard last night and got a lot done. I told him thanks last night, but it really meant a lot to me. He does so much when he gets home that I could never thank him enough. He never complains when I want to get a shower at night and has to watch our son. He is the best dad our boy could ask for and plays with him all the time. I hope he realizes how thankful I am for him.
I texted What do you need from me right now, Sometimes I don’t feel needed from my Husband. He is a good husband, provider, and dad.
Recently I’ve discovered the power of “What do you need from me right now?” It helps because no matter how hard I try, my brain is wired to think woman thoughts: this needs to be said, this is what’s comforting, this is the real problem. Most often I don’t know and can’t imagine what he needs, so saying this phrase instead of assuming my thoughts is helpful to the marriage.
Yesterday I asked my husband what he needs from me right now, and more specifically how I could communicate with him better. We are starting a new business and raising a blended family of 5 kids so strained is a bit of an understatement a lot of the time. But through lots of prayer and working hard together we are getting there.
I thanked my hubby last night for saying that he had noticed the change in my body as I’ve been working on some weight loss and toning. It gave me more encouragement to keep going with my plan. 🙂
I thanked mine and reminded him that he is an amazing dad and that the kids and I are lucky to have him. Neither of us are perfect and I’m trying to be patient with his uninterested in church presently. Besides that one little thing he really is the man of my dreams and he makes my life great.
I thanked mine for being a dad to our kids and a husband to me even when its hard. My kids dad died on Oct 18th 2006. He has been my rock and I take that for granted sometimes.
You are still the man beyond my dreams.
I’m impressed how you’ve learned to fix things over the last 10 years.
“I am so thankful that God sent you to me” – even if on some days i forget to tell you or show you. I tell my hubby & 3 children this.
My husband works in retail and has to miss a lot of family time and events. I don’t always like it but his job is something he loves and is good at plus it keeps us a float since I am a stay at home mom of our two handsome boys. His job allows me to do that. When he was working nights about a week ago, I texted him that I believe in him and what he does. Also, that he is where God wants him to be because he is helping others to love their job like he does. He is a wonderful encourager and it shows in how his fellow workers react to him. So blessed to have him not only in my life but also as my partner in this life.
We have had hard times, you know it wasn’t always rainbows and sunshine, but we have always tried to do things together fifty fifty and that approach is why this year we are celebrating 14 years married. Thank you Lord.
I texted him at work, since he is working the late shift, thanking him for sticking with me during my chronic illness, being super supportive, and a great father to our kiddos. He goes above and beyond at home. This season of illness has tested us and shaken me to my core, but he has remained faithful, and loving. A very good example of our Heavenly Father to me. I’m so thankful that he constantly reminds me, that this is a season, and we will get through it, together.
I texted that our children are so very blessed to have him as their daddy!
And then sent a pic I took of them all together one time when they weren’t looking.
I thanked him for being someone I can respect. He is an awesome man of integrity!
I thanked my husband for being someone I can respect. Several.of the others would have worked for me today, too, but he had a HUGE presentation today. Taking this job was a big leap.of faith, and.I respect his hard work to change his wprk.situation.