It’s time to talk about sex, ladies.
Your man needs and wants sex, probably more than you do.
If a man feels like he’s desirable to you, the love of his life, the other areas that he may be struggling in (work, parenting, etc.) seem somehow more manageable.
One time this week, it’s your job to initiate sex. For some of you, this is going to be way beyond your comfort zone. Do what you can – if it means snuggling, do that. The idea here is to take the first step and be open and tender.
In my experience, it’s better to shoot for earlier in the week to “make your move,” so that if things come up (he has to work late, sick kids, etc.) you still have some time to check this off your list.
In preparation for your romantic evening, I encourage you to pick up a book on the subject. Let it be your inspiration in case things have become a little predictable (or downright non-existent).
Two of my favorites, both written by Dr. Kevin Leman
“Sex Begins in the Kitchen” & “Sheet Music”
Sex update: The other night I couldn’t get back to sleep after waking up at 3 AM. I decided to watch a little TV in the living room. I was hoping the cable news channel would put me to sleep. Instead it woke my husband who got out of bed and came to check on me. He made the rounds ensure all the doors were locked and headed back done the hall for bed. Normally I just tell him “go back to sleep, I’m fine”. But this time I decided to be a little selfish and asked him to stay up with me and join me on the chaise. He hesitated at the invite at first but I was persistant. He’s 6′ and 300lbs so the chaise lounge was going to be a bit uncomfortable. We ‘spooned’. i decided to use the opportunity to compliment him on something he had done the day before. He responded positively and pretty soon, one thing was leading to another… Jammies came off…we were on the floor… when all of a sudden…. my keen mommy ears picked up the sounds of foot steps coming down the hall. Busted! By the 5 year old! Instant mood killer for me. Mental note: make sure the kids are sound asleep next time or take it back to the bedroom! After little guy was safely back in his bed asleep there was no way I wanted to continue in case the older one should wake. One shocker a night was all my mommy guilt could handle! But we did shower together that morning while kids were still asleep. Something we haven’t taken the time to do in a long time. I pampered him with my beauty products and gave him a facial. He enjoyed the pampering and I enjoyed the special one on one time with him.
i did send a flirty text message, but i have to be careful here as since we just had a baby, we are not yet allowed any “boom boom”, as we’ve been calling it. 🙂 so…i will save the bonus date for a few weeks from now and try not to get anyone’s motor running too terribly in the meantime. hahahaha. our saturday was all about leisure and getting nothing done, so that day worked out pretty well.
Ok I went to the book store did some reserch and he was thrilled!! I started early cause I thought it would take all week. Well it didnt. He was so happy that the next night he helped me put the kids to bed so we could get to our bed even quicker. He said to me “what did I do right”. Ha
8) Hey Sugga!
Thanks for bringing this up. There is good news! You need to do the bonus day sometime this week. Yep – if I asked you to do this on the first day there would be a mass exodus…
Well after having our second child!!! He’s gonna be thrilled that I’m back to my. As he says “happy self”. Gotta admit it will be hard. :roll
I’m a bit younger than my husband (@5 1/2 years) and I find that I’m in my prime…I’m usually the one that initiates usually. :grin
Wow, right off the bat! I wasn’t expecting to see this one until later on in the project. I’m presently feeling disconnected from my husband and sex isn’t what I wanted to “bless” him with first. I’m curious if that is what other wives are feeling right now. I’m hoping that after doing a couple of other of this week’s suggestions first, and seeing/receiving the positive response from my husband, that my feelings about this will change before the week is up.
Kuddos to the author on this though – planting the seed in our heads right from the beginning was a brilliant idea. It gives us plenty of time to plan our attack! 😉