So here is a philosophical question: What if you wrote a blog posting and nobody read it? Would it still be a blog posting? I messed up my posting while I was out of tome for the weekend (without internet). So we are a couple of days behind. that’s OK, your husband will still love your loving – no matter when it happens.
Win today’s giveaway! Just tell us what you did (or are going to do!) for today’s Project by 7:00 PST on Tuesday and you will be entered into the drawing for today’s prize: Red Hot Monogamy by Bill and Pam Farrel
With their trademark insight, humor, and candid personal perspectives, Bill and Pam Farrel reveal the truths about the sexual relationship in marriage and what husbands and wives need to know to keep the embers burning.
Sex is like fireworks!—why a little skill turns marriage into red–hot monogamy
How sex works best emotionally, physically, and physiologically
How to avoid the pleasure thieves that steal your chance for fulfillment
The Farrels present difficult–to–discuss topics and biblical truths in universal language with sensitivity, fun, and understanding.
For newlyweds, golden anniversary celebrants, and all couples in between—this book inspires the gift of romance and passion to fuel lives with love.
So leave your comment below to be entered to win!
While this is the first week of our project, if you have friends who want to join in, let them know that they can jump in any time. You don’t need to have The Husband Project book in order to participate, but you definitely will get more out of this(and be able to plan better) if you read along. You can order it on Amazon or for a special price on my website.
And yesterday’s winner? Stacy! Please e-mail kimber@kathilipp.com and she will get it right out to you!
Project #6
A Little Hands-on Attention
Meeting Your Husband’s Physical (Touch) Needs
“When you touch a body, you touch the whole person, the intellect, the spirit, and the emotions.” – Jane Harrington
“He who feels it, knows it more.” – Bob Marley
Your Project:
Do something to help your husband enjoy physical touch. Find something that will help him relax. New pillows, massage lotions, a back rub…your choice. Make it something that both of you will enjoy.
What does your husband consider relaxing?
Here’s the project where you get to choose between Thai, Indian, and Moroccan, learn about choosing and blending oils, and get elbow-deep in the technique of kneading. Nope – it’s not watching the Food Chanel together – it’s all about massage.
Remember when you were dating how hard it was to keep your hands off of each other? Fortunately, Roger and I had excellent chaperones while we were engaged (four teenage kids). I remember thinking, “I cannot wait to be married so we can actually be alone and do all this hugging and kissing and…”
After a few years of marriage, however, I seem to have developed excellent self-control.
If I had to pick one love language for my husband, it would definitely be physical touch. He loves the feel of my hands on the back of his neck, wants to sit oh-so-close on the couch, and practically sits up and pants if I offer to scratch his back.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, help me to step out of my comfort zone and love my husband in a way that meets his needs.
Getting Creative
I’m way more inspired to do this project when I’ve just purchased a new lotion or massage oil. Run to the mall and buy a jar of “inspiration.”
Get some luxurious new sheets – whether you’re into silk, bamboo, or flannel, buy the best quality you can afford. Make your bed a cocoon that you can both snuggle down in and resist getting out of.
People let their pillows go far too long without being replaced. Take a look at yours – do they say luxury or limp, lumpy, and lifeless? May be time to lay your head on something new.
Do you feel stymied because you know your husband would love a massage, but you have no idea how to do it?You can pick up a book, or better yet, ask him to show you what would feel best. There’s nothing better than a little hands-on instruction.
Project Reports
“If there’s one thing that’ll bring my husband to his knees, accompanied by a long drawn out “ahhhhhh,” it’s a hand massage. (Not what you were expecting, was it?) My husband loves it when I get some nice thick cream (Shea Butter is wonderful) and massage it into his hands and forearms. He’s in heaven within about three seconds of me starting, and by the time I’m done he’s virtually putty. (And, if you’re wondering, this massage rarely leads to something else, because by the time I’m done he’s already half asleep.)”
Teresa
“When we were dating I used to give my husband foot massages regularly. He kept saying “When we get married this will all stop.” Not right after we were married but about a year down the road he was right – they became few and far between. Guess it’s time to give him a nice long foot massage! I think I will add that into my weekly schedule.”
Denise
“We’ve been sleeping on mismatched sheets for the past six months… so, getting new sheets was not only what we needed but, just in time for this project. Let me tell you how nice it was for the both of us to slip into Egyptian cotton bed sheets~ Yeah, it was NICE~ You can get my point. OK. This one worked for the both of us.”
Penny
“I love this. Not being a “touch” sort of person myself, I realize this is an area I’ve (selfishly?) neglected. I happen to have just a little something tucked away from the last time I got inspired. Going to dust the bottle off, take a shower, invite my playmate to bed…”
Angie
“My husband has a lot of problems with his sinuses. So as we where relaxing, I had him rest his head in my lap and rubbed his head for him.”
Win today’s giveaway! Just tell us what you did (or are going to do!) for today’s Project by 7:00 PST on Friday and you will be entered into the drawing for today’s prize: The Husband Project DVD
Do you feel like your marriage has gone from “I do” to “What did I do?” Recapture the romance that made you and your husband fall in love in the first place. The Husband Project provides 21 days of fun activities to show love and honor to your husband. This DVD is taken from one of Kathi?s presentations. It will help you put the Husband Project into practice in your marriage.
So leave your comment below to be entered to win!
While this is the first week of our project, if you have friends who want to join in, let them know that they can jump in any time. You don’t need to have The Husband Project book in order to participate, but you definitely will get more out of this(and be able to plan better) if you read along. You can order it on Amazon or for a special price on my website.
And yesterday’s winner? Sabrina! Please e-mail kimber@kathilipp.com and she will get it right out to you!
Project #5 E-flirt.com Text or E-mail Some Sweet Nothings
“I turn on my computer. I wait patiently as it connects. I go online. My breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words, “You’ve got Mail.” I hear nothing, not a sound on the streets of New York. Just the beat of my own heart… I have mail, from you.” Meg Ryan as Kathleen Kennedy in “You’ve Got Mail”
Your Project Send a flirty text or e-mail to your husband.
Prayer for Today Dear God, may my husband have the security to know that he’s the only man for me – that you have designed us to be together.
Getting Creative • Use an e-card service (hallmark.com or americangreetings.com) to send a cute and flirty note. • Don’t know how to text? Ask any teenager in the general vicinity. • Most phones have a camera feature where you can send a photo message. Be sure to keep it G rated so that he doesn’t get in trouble at work.
Project Reports “I truly did not think this would work. My husband wouldn’t even know how to read a text message and he rarely checks his email. But we had a fight this last weekend and I wasn’t so nice. So I sent him an online greeting card apologizing and letting him know I love him. The day after I sent the card, we ended up meeting for lunch. I didn’t say a word about the card. As we were leaving we approached his car first and he got in. I leaned over to give him a kiss and he had that cute little school boy grin on his face. And he said “Thanks for the card.” That look was worth a million bucks.” RMK “I texted him on my break at work today. It was sweet and sexy!! Ha Ha. He was more shocked that I would text him than the fact that I made sexual advances! I know he enjoyed the flirting, but all he said was that I tired him out last night! ( I did the bonus day the night before) Pretty funny, huh? He was just kidding, but I think he was partially serious. “ SB
“I sent him a text the day before but since it went so well that time I decided to do it again. He loved the dialog and the special note just for him.” LJ
“Usually phone calls or text messages from home involve, “What time are you leaving work today? Can you stop by the store…” or “Your child did this today…you need to have a talk with him/her when you get home!” So I wasn’t too hip to text or call my husband during work hours if I could help it. I wanted to give him a break from all that during this 21 day project. My lack of pestering him during his work day has resulted in him calling home, just because. Nice change!” SL
“A few weeks ago my husband, Bill, was in Japan. In an e-mail he sent, something he said struck me funny, even though what he said wasn’t funny, but I just sensed that God spoke to me and said “flirt with your husband, he needs it.” I haven’t flirted with him, probably, since we got married. (You can still have fun and enjoy each other without flirting…) Oh, it was fun, made me feel young again. He never said anything, but I’m sure it put a smile on him. I’m going to keep this up.”
Win today’s giveaway! Just tell us what you did (or are going to do!) for today’s Project by 7:00 PST on Wednesday and you will be entered into the drawing for today’s giveaway: The Frozen Gourmet
For most women, the hardest thing about cooking dinner is deciding what to make. Developed by Kathi’s Cooking Club, Six Chicks Freeze And Fix, The Frozen Gourmet contains 20 of their families’ favorite recipes. Save time, save money and save your sanity The Frozen Gourment Way! So leave your comment below to be entered to win!
While this is the first week of our project, if you have friends who want to join in, let them know that they can jump in any time. You don’t need to have The Husband Project book in order to participate, but you definitely will get more out of this(and be able to plan better) if you read along. You can order it on Amazon or for a special price on my website.
And our winner of yesterday’s giveaway The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage is Gretta! Please e-mail my assistant Kimberly at kimber@kathilipp.com and she will put it in the mail!!!
Project #4
Heart vs. Stomach
A Treat Just for Him
Your Project:
Get a food treat for your husband that he’s not required to share with you or any other family member.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I want my husband to know that he is honored and cherished, even in the little things I do for him.
Getting Creative
Stumped for ideas? Here are some thoughts:
·Get his favorite pint of Ben & Jerry’s and hide it behind the frozen chicken. Even if you buy it on Tuesday, you’ll have it ready and waiting for his special night later in the week.
·Is there a certain cut of meat that your husband loves? How about having the butcher cut something just for him? Most supermarkets will even do the marinade for you – one less thing to think about.
·Is there a certain candy that your husband loves from his childhood? Check out www.candywarehouse.com. They have all the nostalgic candy you could want (Black Jack Gum, anyone?) while also carrying any modern favorite you could be looking for.
·My husband’s family loves something called “noodles and mashed potatoes” (we lovingly refer to it as “The Starch Fest”). I learned how to make this special dish just for him.
·My guy loves the smell of baking almost as much as he enjoys eating the treat. Have some brownies in the oven when he gets home from work or working out. (I know, it negates the workout, but isn’t chocolate always worth it?)
·Our friend Scott mentioned that he loves cranberry sauce, but eats it only at Thanksgiving. His wife intentionally made the holiday treat for him this past July.
·Are you a wife who is an expert at low-cal salads and other forms of chick-food? Check out The Husband Project’s List of Guy Food for some manly inspiration.
Project Reports
“My lactose intolerant husband loves soy ice cream (bleck) and he has run out of his favorite kind that we can only get at a certain market in town. So…today, I will schlep to the market on the other side of town and pick up some Chocolate Peanut Butter Soy Dream Ice Cream. And he can eat ALL of it.”
Marci
“Easiest project so far! Pace Picante salsa HOT with tortilla chips plus a run to KFC for hot wings. I love that this project coincided with “Big Game” day – it made my day to love on him with his favorite football snacks!”
Karmyn
“I actually combined two days in one today. I was my husband’s buddy and watched the Seahawks – Green Bay game with him. I had a pretty strong feeling about how that would turn out!!! I was right so after the game I ran out (we have a mini mart less than a block away) and got him a pint of his favorite Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream. It was extra special for him because we have been on a diet and he hasn’t been eating many of his favorite foods. I wasn’t sure how I would fit the favorite food day in! That worked and it helped ease his pain over our teams BIG LOSS!”
Denise
“I am going on a scrapbooking retreat. So I thought I would leave him one of his favorite treats and leave little sweet notes around the house for him to find while I am gone.”
SB
“I wish I found a treat revolting, then my scale would show a different number. But what I did was put the dark chocolate bar that he got for Christmas in a special place in the refrigerator and told him that it was there and that I would not eat any of it. If you can believe it, he is the type that will eat just a little piece from it and make it last for a long time. I, on the other hand, would’ve devoured it by now!”
Win today’s giveaway! Just tell us what you did (or are going to do!) for today’s Project by 7:00 PST on Wednesday and you will be entered into the drawing for today’s giveaway: The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage
Stormie Omartian’s bestselling books on prayer and marriage have touched millions of readers in a life–changing way. The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage helps husbands or wives pray to protect their relationship from 14 serious problems that can lead to unsatisfying marriages or even divorce. For those who are already struggling in these areas, this book will help them find healing and restoration.
Readers will learn how to pray about everything from
communication breakdown to struggles with finances and raising children
misplaced priorities to anger, unforgiveness, and sexual frustration
pornography and infidelity to depression and addictions
No stranger to struggles in her 34 years of marriage, Stormie looks at these topics and more in the straightforward, hopeful manner readers have come to trust. As always, readers will find Bible verses and personal prayers they can use as powerful resources to help their marriages last a lifetime.
So leave your comment below to be entered to win!
While this is the first week of our project, if you have friends who want to join in, let them know that they can jump in any time. You don’t need to have The Husband Project book in order to participate, but you definitely will get more out of this(and be able to plan better) if you read along. You can order it on Amazon or for a special price on my website.
And our winner of yesterday’s giveaway Becoming the Woman of His Dreams is Crystal A! Please e-mail my assistant Kimberly at kimber@kathilipp.com and she will put it in the mail!!!
Project #3 You da’ Man Spreading Great Gossip About Your Guy
Your Project:
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom.
As cliché as it may sound, our husbands want to be our heroes. More than they want to know that we love them, they want to know that we respect them. They need to know that they’re never the butt of our jokes, that they’re the go-to-guy in every story we tell.
Make an opportunity today to brag on your husband to someone else. It doesn’t matter if it’s one of your friends or one of his; let that somebody know how blessed you are to be married to your guy.
Some key phrases you may want to put on index cards to help you remember:
· “I feel so lucky to have a man who knows how to do his own laundry.”
· “You know when I knew that my husband really loved me? When he could remember my order at Starbucks.”
· “I just love the way he is with our kids.”
· “He makes the best lasagna on the planet.”
While your greatest need may be for your husband to tell you that he loves you, most guys are programmed differently. He wants, at his very core, to know that you respect him. He wants to know that you are proud of him and that he is the one you would choose again if given the chance.
This goes a long way to solidifying you as a team, as well. There’s no way that anyone in my family would ever say a word against my husband. They know that I’m on his side, and it’s a gossip-free zone around me (unless the gossip is about how great he is).
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight.
Getting Creative
Who are the important people in your husband’s life? Your kids, his parents, his friends? Be intentional about who you chat with when you brag on him – it’s almost as important as actually doing it.
Having a hard time coming up with something? I still brag on my guy for things he did years ago. He loves when I tell the story of how brilliantly he proposed (there were waterfalls and stuffed portabella mushrooms involved…).
Here are some other areas to think about when crafting your brag:
· His parenting skills
· His patience level
· The way he treats your mom
· His culinary ability
· His job
· His loyalty to you
Project Reports:
“This last Valentine’s Day my husband, Guy, did wonderful things for our children and for me. I had the opportunity to brag about these things to my sister on my cell phone with my husband right there! If you are wondering what he did, he made up a treasure hunt for each of our 3 children. They each had 3 clues before they got their prize and he made each of the clues rhyme! The kids absolutely LOVED it and I was very impressed as well. For myself, I have mother/daughter date with my eldest daughter every Thursday night and we didn’t get home until about 9:30pm. He had a bunch of candles lit in our bedroom, wonderful coupons for me to use for time away from the kids, not to make dinner, and more. There was also champagne, Barry White playing on the CD and chocolates! The BEST Valentine’s Day ever!”
Carolyn
“I like this project. I made a decision long ago (before I was even married oddly enough) to try to not to say negative things about my husband to other people. I have heard lots of wives complain about their husbands and I realized that it not only makes the person talking feel bad (continuing to think about the negative), but it also makes the listener feel bad (caught in between and NEVER knowing the right thing to say). I admit it is not easy and I do have moments when all I want to do is vent, but I really try hard to stick to the ‘if you don’t have something nice to say…’ rule.”
Becky
“The bragging was easy for me!!! It just so happen that I had my 2 year olds b-day party that day…Boy oh boy did everyone there get an earful of what a big help my husband was for, helping my with the party…”
Michelle
“Okay, so I kinda cheated on this one. We were talking about this project at MOPS so I said to the ladies at my table, “Just so ya know, my husband is awesome!” So it was a little contrived, but I totally meant it. I’ll keep working at this “assignment” though. I want to make a habit of saying nice things about my husband in a more natural way.”
Christina
“I, too, try not to disparage my husband in front of other people (or to him for that matter) but I think I had gotten lazy about talking him up! He is a fabulous man and this week I made a point to let people know. My sweet hubby was a little embarrassed but he beamed when I told him about it! It feels great to focus on his strong points – it reminds me why I love him even more now than when I married him!”
Win today’s giveaway! Just tell us what you did (or are going to do!) for today’s Project by 7:00 PST on Tuesday and you will be entered into the drawing for today’s book: A Wife After God’s Own Heart
One secret to marital bliss is for a wife to love her husband the way God designed for her to love him—even with his shortcomings. God hasn’t called a woman to change her husband, but to focus on her calling as a wife. And the rewards for doing so are rich! Elizabeth provides valuable and practical insights on 12 key areas of a marriage, including…
What it means to be a husband’s helper
What submission is and isn’t
Nurturing joy in your home and family
Excelling in your work…and making time for fun as a couple!
So leave your comment below to be entered to win!
While this is the first day of our project, if you have friends who want to join in, let them know that they can jump in any time. You don’t need to have The Husband Project book in order to participate, but you definitely will get more out of this(and be able to plan better) if you read along. You can order it on Amazon or for a special price on my website.
And our winner of yesterday’s giveaway Becoming the Woman of His Dreams is ALH1203! Please e-mail my assistant Kimberly at kimber@kathilipp.com and she will put it in the mail!!!
Let me just say, I am so proud of all of you for thinking outside the box and doing what you had to do to bless your man! I love the observation that Cami made on the first day:
“Day one of the project and I already feel better about him and how much he does for our little family.It helps to think outside of myself and what I need to get done in the day.”
Project #2
Back in the Day
Do Something He Enjoyed Before You Got Married
Your Project:
Initiate an activity that your husband used to love. Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport, or pastime, it’s time for you to get involved – be his buddy today.
“Lust is easy. Love is hard. Like is most important.” ~ Carl Reiner
Most guys don’t spend a lot of time hanging out with their buddies—you are his buddy. He married you to have a built-in friend who he can do all those fun things. (The fact that the two of you can have sex is definitely a bonus…)
It’s vital for men to build friendship into each other’s lives, and as wives, we have a responsibility to encourage our guys to hang out with other good guys. However, in most marriages, our husbands will be looking to us to do life with.
It’s time to think about those things your husband loves to do with you—his buddy. Maybe it’s hiking up a mountain, hanging out at Best Buy, or watching his alma mater’s football team play at the local high school. It doesn’t matter if you like it or not—your fun will come from watching the look on your husband’s face as he reclaims some of his long forgotten loves. (Video gaming anyone?)
If you need to keep it really simple today, maybe just get him talking about something he used to love to do – or even just watch what we call in our house a “boy show” (something on the science channel where something is blowing up…)
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray that my husband can view me as his friend and lover, as you have designed.
“A hobby a day keeps the doldrums away.” ~ Phyllis McGinley
Getting Creative
·Many a man’s hobby has gone by the wayside due to matrimony. Is it possible that it’s time you learned to golf or fly fish? Don’t try to beat him, just join him.
·Possibly the only thing your husband would enjoy more than playing chess with you is teaching you how to play chess.Ask for a lesson so he can teach you something that he is an expert at (or really loves). Just your willingness to learn will be a huge boost to your guy.
·Pick up a magazine about your guy’s now dormant hobby. Ask him questions about why he loves it so much. Learn a couple of technical terms so that you are better able to discuss it.
·Do a little research. Find out what the definitive website is on your husband’s favorite subject. Maybe there’s an event in town, a lecture to attend, or a game to watch.
Project Reports
My husband is a public school principal. He is great at what he does but the job is taxing emotionally. We have two children, a 16-year old daughter and a nine-year old son. They both want his attention and he spends a lot of time with them. He also has a wife who has her own set of needs. All that said there is not a lot of time for him.
When I plan something that I know he will really like, a hike on a beautiful trail, something we did a lot more of pre-kids, his face lights up. A heaviness is lifted from him and he begins to look at maps and google earth. He is completely into the adventure before him. It is fun to see him get so joyful over the thought of taking a hike, of all things. I love pleasing him that way.
Sue
“Watching sports on television was definitely something my husband enjoyed before we were married. Sports bar ‘dates’ with the guys during football season were pretty common. Now ten years later, all the buddies have become dads themselves and are too busy to enjoy watching games away from home. When football comes on the TV at home, I usually head for another part of the house in search of a project to keep me busy for a couple of hours. Nothing better than going out shopping on SuperBowl Sunday – the stores are empty! Last week I stayed put and watched a game with him and the boys. A couple of times during the game my husband had to leave the room to take calls from work. He was so surprised to come back into the room each time to 1) find the TV still on (I usually turn it off), 2) the channel hadn’t been changed (the kids usually put on cartoons), and 3) I knew the score! Brownie points for me.”
SL
“My husband use to scuba dive but he hurt his ears and can no longer do that. I asked him about a hike with me and the kids and he LOVED the idea. It was FOUR hours and a pretty strenuous hike. I had our toddler on my back for at least a good 3/4th of the time for safety reasons. My 11 year old loved every minute of it and we brought plenty of food and water. We all enjoyed the great outdoors and it’s something I know we as a family need to do more often…THE GREAT OUTDOORS!”
Here are the first seven projects that we are starting on Monday. Take a little time to plan for them today. (And don’t forget the Bonus Project – Sometime next week make sure you plan for some EXTRA special time with your man.)
Project 1
30 Minutes Is All It Takes
Create Some Free Time When He Gets Home
Your Project:
Focus on your husband’s transitional 30 minutes today. Would he like to be left alone to rest and rejuvenate, or does he want some undivided attention from you? The point is to let your husband know you value what he does out in the world, and that he has a safe, loving place to come home to and get refreshed at the end of the day.
Project 2
Back in the Day
Do Something He Enjoyed Before You Got Married
Your Project
Initiate an activity that your husband used to love. Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport, or pastime, it’s time for you to get involved. Be his buddy today.
Project 3
You da’ Man
Spreading Great Gossip About Your Guy
Your Project:
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom.
Project 4
Heart vs. Stomach
A Treat Just for Him
Your Project:
Get a food treat for your husband that he’s not required to share with you or any other family member.
Project 5
E-flirt.com
Text or E-mail Some Sweet Nothings
Your Project
Send a flirty text or e-mail to your husband.
Project 6
A Little Hands-on Attention
Meeting Your Husband’s Physical (Touch) Needs
Your Project:
Do something to help your husband enjoy physical touch. Find something that will help him relax. New pillows, massage lotions, a back rub…your choice. Make it something that both of you will enjoy.
Project 7
Trophy Wife
Looking Goooood for Your Man
Your Project:
Do one thing to look nice just for your guy. It can be clothing, hair, or makeup
**Win a copy of The Husband Project – keep reading to find out how!**
While this is the first day of our prep, if you have friends who want to join in, let them know that they can jump in any time. You don’t need to have The Husband Project book in order to participate, but you definitely will get more out of this(and be able to plan better) if you read along. You can order it on Amazon or for a special price on my website.
First off, here are our pack winners. (Be sure to email my assistant, Kimberly at Kimber@kathilipp.com and let her know you are a winner.)
Don’t worry if you didn’t win- we are having tons of giveaways this month. Check back everyday, comment, and then check to see if you are a winner.
Check out all of the free fun stuff on the website under Freebies. There is a great Calendar that you can print out to plan all of your hubby activities. Remember, Project #1 starts next Monday, so you can plan accordingly.
Leave a comment by 10:00 PM PST about what you are doing today to plan (printing the calendar, planning the first week, etc.) and you could win a copy of The Husband Project for you or a friend.
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Read thru the Glossary of Terms and The Quick Start Guide
Glossary of Terms
for The Husband Project
Project
A provided activity by which you’ll bless your guy, making him feel special, loved, appreciated, adored, admired, honored or pampered…and if he’s really lucky, all of the above! There are 21 Projects in all.
Project Manager
Head cheerleader for the “make my guy feel great” campaign…that would be you! You’re already queen of the house, the proverbial belle of the ball, and now, since you’re the one taking charge on each and every Project, you’re the Project Manager.
Accountability Partner
Someone who helps keep your feet to the fire, The Husband Project fire, that is. Accountability Partners (one of them is me, Kathi!) join you in this project to collectively discuss your plans and goals, provide enthusiasm, inspiration, and maybe a little laughter along the way.
Bonus Projects
Sex. Yep, that’s what the Bonus Projects are all about. Sex, plain and simple…you’ll be finding ways to physically bless your man at least once a week for each of the three weeks. No doubt, these projects will be some of your guy’s favorites, and hopefully some of yours as well.
Lingerie
An essential part of any Project Manager’s tool kit. In the chapter, The Real Woman’s Guide to Lingerie Shopping, we give you all the good stuff you need to know to make a splash with a little sex appeal and a lot of self-confidence.
Guy Food
Recipes we’ve provided so you can bless you guy, regardless of your culinary skills. Think comfort food. Think rich, yummy, oooey-gooey, creamy, cheesy and generally, doctor-restricted. You won’t find these dishes on the low-fat, low-carb menus, but you will find them at the top of your husband’s favorite foods list.
Guy Movies
Manly movie fare recommended by guys I actually know. Movie categories include sports, action, comedy, and, of course, gratuitous violence. Meet your man’s need for speed, greed and the occasional backhanded deed. As a courtesy, there’s a short of list of movies-for-two for you both to enjoy together.
Getting Creative
Unique, fresh and specific ideas…just what you need to help you complete each Project. Sometimes the hardest part in running the race is getting off the starting block. To help you over this potential hurdle each Project chapter features a Getting Creative section to get you motivated and mobilized to bless your man!
A Quick How-To Guide for The Husband Project
Here is your step-by step guide to doing the Project.
The Purpose of The Husband Project is to spend 21 days intentional loving and supporting your husband, intentionally.
Remember – this is a secret from your husband. Hide the book at work, in your car, anywhere that your husband will not see it. (He may find out – it’s not
Read through all of the Projects.
This is your chance to get a feel for all 21 of the Projects. Be sure to use all of this book – make notes in the margins, scribble and doodle on the pages, and start to think about ways to tailor each Project to your husband.
Find other friends who want to do The Husband Project and will hold you accountable.
It doesn’t matter if they’re phone friends, internet buddies, or face-to-face girlfriends you meet with at Starbucks down the street. Location is not important; consistency is.
Share your Project Plan with your accountability partners
Each day you are going to have the opportunity to share what you did – or are planning to do – for each project. You don’t have to have completed the project in order to win – you just have to share your plan with us on the blog!
Be Flexible
If one of the projects doesn’t line up with your husband’s schedule, swap it for another day. If food does nothing for him, find another way to treat your hubby – this is all about connecting with him. The intention of the Husband Project is not to make you crazy, but to find new ways to bless and support your husband. Just do something, intentionally, every day.
Remember, starting Monday October 5th we will be kicking off The Husband Project Challenge- 21 Days of Loving Your Man On Purpose and with a Plan. Win a copy of the book this week or purchase it in my shop (we are having a special to celebrate this month.) But hey, you can do the challenge without the book – but what’s the fun in that?)
Oh, and congrats to Deann, who won Tuesday‘s book!
If you have read The Husband Project, you know that one of the major aspects of the plan is to get together with a few friends and hold each other accountable throughout the 21 days of the project. (And trust me, when you are assigned to be nice to your man for 21 days, you are going to need all the friends you can get in order not to quit…)
Well, you are going to have some MAJOR accountability since y’all are doing the Project with me on the blog. But, it is also good to have one or two friends who are your “fleshy friends”. Women who know you a little bit deeper than a bunch of people (albeit, a rockin’ group of people…) that you don’t know real well.
So while we are all going to have a lot of fun, I want you to get as much accountability around you as possible, from my group, and your own.
To get the word out to your friends so that they can support you and you can support them, I’m going to encourage you with some extra swag and some extra chances to win.
For the next three days, you will be entered into the drawing just by leaving a comment in the section below. All I want to know is who you want to be doing the Project with – your sister, your best friend, or your bestest bloggy friend.
And if you put a link to this post up on Facebook or Twitter (and in a separate comment let me know that you did) I will enter you another time. You can enter up to twice a day. (Cause it is going to be just that much fun.)
On Friday, I will pick three winners, each of whom will receive a Husband Project Gift Pack, including:
First off, BIG CONGRATS to Monica Lonigan who won yesterday’s book! Enter today below.
So, are you in?
Is it time to give your hubby a little extra loving?
As I have been talking about here on the blog for a few days now, the whole month of October is going to be Husband Month here on the blog. We are gearing up for a lot of man lovin’ and I just have one question for you.
So, are you in?
Are you willing to step up and say “Yes! For 21 days I will spend 5 extra minutes a day loving my man on purpose. I will think about what he wants for dinner instead of just what my kids will eat. I will wear something to bed for one night that doesn’t have the word “GAP” printed on it! YES, I am ready for the challenge!”
Or, maybe it is just: “Yes, my friend has guilted me into it.”
Either answer is perfectly acceptable.
I know it is never a good time to work on this stuff. I know that you are busy and going into the holidays and you are the room mom and work is extra busy.
I promise, we are going to keep it fun. I am going to do a give away EVERY SINGLE DAY of the project. Lots of women will be sharing their wisdom, their stories and their recipes.
So, are you in?
If you are, let me know in the comments below before 9:00 pm PST on Tuesday and I will enter your name into Tuesday’s drawing. Then be sure to check back on Wednesday to see if you won.
I want every one of my blog readers to look back years from now and remember that October was one of the best months of your marriage.
In preparation for our Husband Project 21 Day Challenge in October, I am going to be giving away five copies of the book this week. (If you already have a copy of the book, this would be a great opportunity to win one for a friend to do the Project with!)
So today, please let us all know one thing you really LIKE about your husband – yes, I know that you LOVE your husband because he is kind and loves God, but let’s be a bit more superficial – what do you LIKE about your husband.
The way he can BBQ the chicken without drying it out.
The fact that he will watch a chick movie with you.
His Jim Carrey impression.
The way he looks in his jeans.
(Just so you know, Roger qualifies for three out of four of those listed. And he doesn’t do any impressions…)
Leave your comment here and let me know why you like your husband and you will be entered into the drawing to win the book. Check in tomorrow to see if you won and if you didn’t, you will have a chance to win tomorrow.
So here is a philosophical question: What if you wrote a blog posting and nobody read it? Would it still be a blog posting? I messed up my posting while I was out of tome for the weekend (without internet). So we are a couple of days behind. that’s OK, your husband will still love your loving – no matter when it happens.
Remember, starting Monday October 5th we will be kicking off The Husband Project Challenge- 21 Days of Loving Your Man On Purpose and with a Plan. Win a copy of the book this week or
If you have read The Husband Project, you know that one of the major aspects of the plan is to get together with a few friends and hold each other accountable throughout the 21 days of the project. (And trust me, when you are assigned to be nice to your man for 21 days, you are going to need all the friends you can get in order not to quit…)
